How to Stay Positive…when the boss isn’t
March 8th, 2010 Posted in Newsletter
I speak to a lot of organizations on the importance of positive leadership and the benefits of building a positive culture that fuels performance. Yet, the most common question I receive after my talk is: “Jon, this makes so much sense but my boss isn’t that kind of leader/manager. So how do I stay positive when my boss isn’t?” It’s a question I know well. I remember when I worked in business development during the dot.com boom and bust. I had a very negative boss and one day I made a few decisions that changed everything. The Energy Bus wasn’t even a thought in my mind yet, but looking back I was already putting the principles into action.
Here are few suggestions that I hope will help you, your team and maybe even your boss.
1. Make Your Bus Great - You may not be the leader of your organization. You may not be driving the “big bus.” But you can decide to make your bus great. Every day just focus on being the best you can be and bring out the best in others, tuning out everything else. Tune out the negativity. Tune out the comments. Tune out anything you can’t control. You can’t drive anyone else’s bus. Just drive your bus and make it a great ride.
2. Your Positive Energy Must be Greater than All of the Negativity - In the book Power vs Force, author David Hawkins, MD shares research that 80 percent of the population vibrates to a negative frequency. The fact is negativity is all around us. It’s not just your boss . It’s everywhere. You must remember that your positive energy must be greater than all the negativity. As country wisdom suggests, “Never wrestle with a pig because you’ll both get dirty and the pig likes it.” Instead stay above the fray. Positive energy is much more powerful than negative energy. If you stay positive, the negativity can’t touch you.
3. Live it, Breathe it, Share it - Walt Whitman said we convince by our presence. If you truly focus on being positive and sharing it in an authentic and sincere way then you will do a lot of convincing. Your boss will sense something different in you and they will change the way they behave towards you. They may even ask what’s changed in your life.
4. Invite Your Boss on Your Bus - Give your boss The Energy Bus or another book on positive leadership. I’ve received countless emails from leaders who received The Energy Bus from their employees and it changed the way they lead. Best of all, the leader then invited the rest of the company on the bus. So don’t think you can’t change your situation or organization. You can. I’m convinced that very few people want to be negative. Most people are negative because of stress, busyness, and fear. Most people just need a wake-up call to break out of their rut. Decide to be a beacon of light that shines on others. You’ll be amazed at what happens.
5. If Your Boss Doesn’t Change, You Can - If all else fails then you have a choice. You can decide to stay positive and outlast your boss knowing that truth shines through and eventually a negative boss won’t last - ultimately their team will fall apart, results will suffer and they will be asked off the bus. Or you can decide to change your job. A lot of people do this and that’s why the best cultures that focus on positive leadership attract the best employees. Whatever you do, however, don’t allow a negative boss or colleague to get you down. With 80% of the population being negative, we need positive powerful people like you to offset the negativity.
Have you successfully dealt with a negative boss? What did you do? Have you helped your boss become more positive? What did you do? Share your thoughts here.
-Jon
9 Responses to “How to Stay Positive…when the boss isn’t”
By Carl on Mar 8, 2010
These are great tips! Thank you. I have to admit that I have probably not handled negative bosses the best way in the past. These tips will sure help.
By Bob Mc. on Mar 8, 2010
Jon,
I just returned from a week long “training” session for a company who wants me to represent them. I was so moved by the President, that I gave him a copy of “The Energy Bus” with a thank you note. My next challenge is to concentrate on remembering the advice of your points #1 & 5. You CAN control your BUS, and don’t let the negativity of a boss get you down. (Quite frankly, I wanted to throw my last two unethical bosses not only off the bus, but under it as well.)
Thanks for the great advice.
By Sue on Mar 8, 2010
I have a 12 year old daughter and share some of your suggestions with her. She has been with us for 3 years now, so you can imagine the confusion she has (2 families). Do you have a book for kids? I know she could benefit from reading a book that is more geared to her age group. Thank you,
By Cathy on Mar 8, 2010
The Energy Bus is an awesome book that truly re-energizes you to a new level in being positive and effective in area of your life.
By SH Stafford on Mar 8, 2010
Remaining positive is excellent advice - thanks for the reminder. I have a positive boss, but he is new and has little power within our school system. The school system that employs me is thinking of cutting my position. I have two masters degrees and am a building leader. I do not know what the future holds, but I am worried. How do you stay positive in the face of job elimination?
By davidburkus on Mar 8, 2010
Number 5 is the key, yet so many people are afraid to make that change.
By Betty Heggemeyer on Mar 10, 2010
I am a medical transcription and work in a, probably 6 x 8 foot room. There are three of us. Two of them are negative and feed off of each other, and one is the superviser. I try so hard to be positive, and sometimes feel like I just get put down for it, or sarcastically my super (and we’ve been friends a long time)will say to me, “Mrs. Positive” and I feel like I’m just worn out trying to be positive, and she’s pretty sarcastic anyway. What do you suggest?
By Herbert on Mar 10, 2010
just checking in
By Lizzie on Mar 11, 2010
Jon, this is so timely - I was just thinking about this issue when I decided to check out your blog post for the week. I have two bosses in our company of 3 and they could not be more opposite in terms of their personal, financial needs and their ideas for the company. It’s causing a breakdown in communication (one has issues with the way the other runs it and the other doesn’t realize it) and I truly believe it’s inhibiting the growth of our company. I spend most of my day with the negative boss, and have realized that I don’t want to end up like that. I’m trying to take initiatives on my own (improving skills, trying out new ideas on projects) and would love to eventually break out on my own. Until then I can really take these points to heart! Thanks!