5 Ways To Stay Positive When the Boss Isn't

I speak to a lot of organizations on the importance of positive leadership and the benefits of building a positive culture that fuels performance. Yet, one of the most common questions I receive after my talk is... "Jon, what do I do when my boss isn’t a positive leader/manager?" It’s a question I know well. I remember when I worked in business development during the dot.com boom... and bust. I had a very negative boss and one day I made a few decisions that changed everything. The Energy Bus, Soup and The Seed weren't even thoughts in my mind yet, but looking back I was already putting the principles into action.

Here are few suggestions that I hope will help you, your team and your boss.

1. Make Your Bus Great - You may not be the leader of your organization. You may not be driving the "big bus," but you can decide to make YOUR bus great. Every day just focus on being the best you can be and bring out the best in others while tuning out everything else. Tune out the negativity. Tune out the comments. Tune out anything you can’t control. You can’t drive anyone else’s bus. Just drive your bus and make it a great ride.

2. Your Positive Energy Must Be Greater than All of the Negativity - In the book Power vs Force, author David Hawkins, MD shares research that 80 percent of the population vibrates to a negative frequency. The fact is negativity is all around us. It’s not just your boss. It’s everywhere. You must remember that your positive energy must be greater than all the negativity. As country wisdom suggests, "Never wrestle with a pig because you'll both get dirty and the pig likes it." Instead, stay above the fray. Positive energy is much more powerful than negative energy. If you stay positive, the negativity can't touch you.

3. Be The Seed -When you plant yourself where you are, with a desire to serve and make a difference, you will create very positive conditions for your growth. You'll be amazed at how your boss and others start treating you more positively when you approach your work with a service mindset. They will sense something different in you and they will change the way they behave towards you. I encourage you to read The Seed and let the growing process begin.

4. Invite Your Boss on Your Bus - Give your boss The Energy Bus, Soup or another book on positive leadership. I don't say this to be self promotional but rather to share something that has helped others. I've received countless emails from leaders who received The Energy Bus and Soup from their employees and it changed the way they lead. Best of all, the leader then invited the rest of the company on the bus. So don't think you can't change your situation or organization. You can. I'm convinced that very few people want to be negative. Most people are negative because of stress, busyness, and fear. Most people just need a wake-up call to break out of their rut. People tell me that my books help do this. It's why I do the work I do. So decide to be a beacon of light that shines on others. You'll be amazed at what happens.

5. If Your Boss Doesn’t Change, You Can - If all else fails... you have a choice. You can decide to stay positive, be the seed and outlast your boss knowing that truth shines through and eventually a negative boss won't last - ultimately their team will fall apart, results will suffer and they will be asked off the bus.... Or you can decide to change your job. A lot of people do this and that's why the best cultures that focus on positive leadership attract the best employees.

Whatever you do, however, don't allow a negative boss or colleague to get you down. With 80 percent of the population being negative, we need positive powerful people like you to offset the negativity. So keep staying positive!

Have you successfully dealt with a negative boss? What did you do? Have you helped your boss become more positive? What did you do? Share your thoughts here.

- Jon

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